In the hustle and bustle of homeschooling life, where math lessons mix with character training and science experiments occasionally spill on the kitchen floor, one fruit of the Spirit often quietly holds everything together: self-control.

As Galatians 5:22-23 reminds us, self-control is one of the beautiful evidences of the Holy Spirit at work in our lives. For homeschooling families, it’s more than just a virtue—it’s a daily necessity.

For parents, self-control means choosing patience over frustration when the same spelling word is misspelled for the fourth time. It’s modeling calm during chaotic mornings, staying consistent with discipline, and remembering that our tone teaches just as much as our lesson plans. Our children are watching, and what we live always speaks louder than what we say.

For children, practicing self-control helps them grow not only academically but spiritually. It teaches them to resist distractions, focus on their studies, and respectfully respond to siblings and parents. It’s a muscle that strengthens over time—starting with small things like waiting their turn or finishing a task before playing.

The beauty of self-control is that it points us back to Christ. It reminds us that we aren’t expected to muster up discipline on our own. Through the Holy Spirit, we’re empowered to make wise choices—even when it’s hard.

Homeschooling offers a unique opportunity to nurture this fruit in an environment where faith is woven into daily life. As we teach math and reading, let’s also teach—and model—what it looks like to walk by the Spirit. Little by little, self-control shapes hearts, homes, and habits in powerful ways. 

And remember, on those days when tempers flare and patience runs thin, God’s grace is more than enough to try again tomorrow. And the end of the day, you’re doing more than training your children; you’re raising parents for your grandchildren—and the fruits of your efforts now will be felt for generations.

Our kids are worth it!

For Christ and the Next Generation,
Heidi St. John